tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6109467496312375463.post911652373843028651..comments2023-03-23T03:09:00.921-07:00Comments on How to Deal with a Nice Guy (and other issues): "I can't help but think that guys are so simple - that maybe we are just creating this complex analysis to make her feel better and what the truth really is is that he is just being an asshole and didn't want to give up partying to be with her."Bennyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03018355164187481759noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6109467496312375463.post-14770225910714900522010-06-13T14:47:26.035-07:002010-06-13T14:47:26.035-07:00It's true... guys are more simpler than everyo...It's true... guys are more simpler than everyone thinks. My boyfriend is an athlete and he is totally against weed so I don't smoke anymore (well I didn't do it that often but every now and them with my friends I was into it). Anyways it is not that big of a deal. It shouldn't be that hard to just stop and please the other person. <br /><br />ps: I'm trying to convince my bf to do it with me "while we're young". lolWilmary S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16578674037280898108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6109467496312375463.post-15482090983074817862010-06-09T13:27:32.086-07:002010-06-09T13:27:32.086-07:00That's a good point about them being at differ...That's a good point about them being at different stages in life. I was thinking of that when I gave my thoughts on what it would be like to change the guy, but didn't really come out and say it.<br /><br />I also was assuming that this girl is also still trying to figure things out, even though she seems to be a little less anxious about it than the guy is.Bennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03018355164187481759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6109467496312375463.post-5496918696137211562010-06-09T09:16:43.411-07:002010-06-09T09:16:43.411-07:00I have to agree with a lot of your comments in res...I have to agree with a lot of your comments in response to "MFGI."<br /><br />In particular though, I do believe the main issue isn't the weed at all. It's this: <br /><br />"[He] is having a hard time with transitioning from the party lifestyle of a college student to a more grown up life style."<br /><br />That's his life. I have a whole theory about "changing" someone in a relationship, but that's too long for this comment. However, it seems like the main problem is that they were on different paths. If she's already content with her life and who she is and he's still figuring out how to deal with his more adult responsibilities (including a committed relationship, which can be a burden to some people), then perhaps a "break" will be good for them. <br /><br />He'll get the opportunity to live without the added pressure of knowing that he's disappointing his girl with his smoking habits (and maybe he'll figure out if it's something he can give up on his own, rather than feeling like he has to for her, because let's be honest - no one really likes being told what to do) and she'll get to confront whether she was swept up in infatuation or actual love for him. If they were moving that fast to drop the "L" bomb in 2 months, chances are they might need to slow down and take a break from one another. If they're meant to be, they'll gravitate back towards one another. If not, at least they didn't waste many more months in a dead-end relationship. <br /><br />Just my 2 cents.Joyewonderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13581855312858835342noreply@blogger.com